Saturday, August 16, 2008
Not MY Grandchild!!
As I sit on my deck, relaxing with a cheap glass of red wine, I have some questions for you.
Do you have a Myspace or a Facebook?
Does your grown child or grandchild? Do you know?
Is there ANYONE who hasn't gotten the message that anything you post online is likely to stay there, forever?
Are they still teaching young people that, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all?"
Are you really sure that the person you have granted access to private areas of your MYSPACE/Facebook (assuming you have the good sense to not make the whole thing public) is trustworthy?
I broach this subject because, yet again, MYSPACE/Facebook has reared its ugly head in one of my cases. These days, I swear it comes up in most of them.
Easychick27. There's a good screen name for a woman in a custody battle (I made that up - some of the real screennames are not fit for mixed company and my son reads this blog).
How fun are the pictures of you taking hits off a bong or making out with same sex friends when your Ex is painting you as a degenerate!? Even showing up to court in a nun's habit is not going to be much help.
And isn't it special when a young lady posts scantily clad pictures on her mother's MYSPACE and Mom agrees in the comments that the 13 year old is "hot" like her mama?
I've mentioned, before, that I don't take private clients so I don't have to really worry about screening them for sanity and good sense. As GAL, I just assume that most of them come with issues and, fortunately, it is not my job to try to hide them. However, if I DID take private clients, I think one of the things I would do, in the initial interview, is to have them give me a list of every MYSPACE, Facebook or blog they run and pull it up with them in that meeting to take a look to see what is on there. I'd do this BEFORE they have a chance to pull it down (They tend to trust the gods that if they pull it down on the eve of trial, no one else has already done their homework and will be waiting to whip out S & M pictures in court.) Does a questionable MYSPACE/Facebook site mean the person is a bad person? No, of course not. It speaks more to judgement than morality.
Attorneys who are considering representing the grandchildren of their best client might want to make it a requirement that before they take the case, the grandchild be willing to share with grandpa what the attorney might be up against. I am not sure, ethically, how well that goes over but I can't imagine how difficult it would be to keep the secrets of a drug smoking/promiscuous, mean spirited grandchild who is losing his custody battle just by being himself, all the time worrying that grandpa (the lawyer's best client) is getting pretty ticked that the attorney to whom he is paying a ton of money to represent his precious grandchild apparently sucks at domestic law. Talk about a conflict of interest!
A judge in Oklahoma City used to routinely ask prospective jurors (who, like all of us, tend to lie when asked if they are bigoted or otherwise have any undesirable traits) what bumper stickers they had on their car. It is roughly the same idea as mine.
I indulged myself a few days ago with ordering fabric that I don't need. Most of it arrived within a couple of days. Here are a few pictures:
The name of this fabric line is "sand." It really looks like sand! My hope is to use some of it to create a shadow effect in some project not yet determined.
Here is some fabric that I really like from Blank Textiles.
I also ordered some binding from Moda. I've never tried it, before so we'll see how I like it.
Jezebel's nose - looking pretty fine!
I've had several people ask how Jezebel is feeling. She has been in a great mood, all day, although somewhat hyper. She has been darting around, yipping, demanding to go out (and in and out, and in and out, and in and out), coming by to snuggle, etc., since about 3:00 this morning. My theory is that she has probably had a pretty sore nose and/or headache and is starting to feel better. Her nose looks shiny and a bit swollen but her muzzle hair is growing back. As I have said, before, I don't think she knows she is sick. Thank you to those who have been checking in on her.
From the front, her muzzle looks fairly white.
From the side, it looks darker.
Here is the back of the patriotic quilt - I am still in the process of assembling the top. I didn't get too much done on it, today, but that is what Sunday's are for.
Hope your weekend is going well.